And we overlook them so easily

“To lose one parent may be regarded as a misfortune; to lose both looks like carelessness”. Oscar Wilde.

Imagine one fine morning when you wake up and all of sudden you find that your parents are disappeared. There is no one you can call mamma or papa, no one to bring tea for you and no one to kiss your forehead before you step for school or work. How will be that morning? For sure not a fine morning anymore and nothing less than a scary dream that sends perspiration across body. 

Sit back, relax and think what you are without your parents? May be a backbencher student of some college or university (you can even be a topper who will be no more remembered after convocation) or a government servant serving some sick government unit or may be a boyfriend to an argumentative girl or girlfriend to a drug habituated boy. Husband of Jewelry demanding wife or wife of extra marital affair led husband. Is this our existence or this is our non-existence? Well to know answer to all of these queries today go and give a

“I also believe that parents, if they love you, will hold you up safely, above their swirling waters, and sometimes that means you'll never know what they endured, and you may treat them unkindly, in a way you otherwise wouldn't” Mitch Albom

cuddle to your mom and dad [Jhadoo ki Jhapi] and ask them what does your existence holds for them. I am having response already with me. You mean world to them. This is how parents are .It starts from the day you are born. They start building their world of dreams around you. They don’t think of any happiness without you being involved in it. They gave us life and after they want to give us their lives .They look for you as a support to them in their distress. But why I am recounting you all this you already know this don’t you? [yeh toh public hain sab jante hain]. We do know it but simultaneously we stand ignorant towards this truth because if we know this then we also realize that we got some responsibilities back towards our parents .But regrettably we hardly bother do anything for our parents. For me buying a new car is more significant today rather f taking my mother to doctor, today it is more important for us to buy new jewelry for our wife but less important to send our parents to Mecca for Hajj .How easy it has become for us to overlook all those favors that our parents did to us from cleaning our shit to tuck our shirts, holding our hands and teach us how to walk, sitting on their shoulders dancing and almost eating their head off   . The pain that our mother took for nine months keeping us in her womb safe and secure and the pain we still keep giving her and which she takes open heartedly without a sigh. Why we are so obsessed with our own list of unfulfilling worldly desires where the parents are the least priority. Updating Facebook status has become more important than our parents today. We keep on rushing in achieving status, money and we keep growing disremembering that our parents are growing as well and they need us more each passing day.We stop learning from our parents because we take their aging as their decay not the growth of their experience and becoming sager. I was dumbfounded when I saw a women in hospital taking support of side by staircase railings to walk and his son walking next to her with both of his hands in his pocket. I often feel that nowadays those people who don’t have kids are better than those who have because they have no one to expect from and no one will hurt their expectations  Why we feel embarrassed to hold the hand and walk with our elderly parents did they felt mortified as well when we were kids? Why we yell on them when they are not able to listen properly because of aging? Did they yelled on us when we were kids and unable to speak? Every characteristic is similar as we being infants at one point of time and they now being aged .We were not able to speak so may not be they[parents].We were not able to walk so may not be they, but how they disposed of their duties and how we are. Very much crystal clear to all of us. What will happen when we will be aged parents ourselves or when we will need our children, but they won’t be there. Whom should we blame then, I guess no one else but us. As has been rightly said as we sow so shall we reap. For an employer you are only good till the time you perform, for your husband you may be a good wife only till time you bring some hefty dowry for him or for wife you will be only good husband till time you keep meeting her demands. You give pocket money to your child then you are good father, you give money to your daughter for her beauty parlor then you are good mother. Who take you as you are? For mother son will always be a son and for father his daughter will be always his daughter no matter how good or bad you are to them. When a friend of mine told me that he managed to give 100 gifts to his girlfriend on Valentine’s day I was taken aback and then I asked him do you know when is mothers or father’s day celebrated he gave me a selfish giggle. We today as progenies have kept our responsibilities limited towards our parents. For some it is just to give shoulder to the coffin of his parents and for some it may be just to give some money and off course for some neither of the two. There is not a single religion in the world which does not advocates the importance of parents and securing their love is inevitable part of securing heaven. The love from our parents flow for us in abundance that we actually then fail to realize its value. The more the supply less its value is and when they are dead then we realize the importance because now love becomes scarce. 

But this is the irony and we all know that we one way or another we are part of it and this is our own self-created destructive function to one of this function are children unable to realize what it is to be on other side and when their life cycle passes and they reach to the other side someone already takes their places making it unending chain reaction. The best thing a person can be blessed in his or her life are parents. But we don’t understand the value of this blessing. Go and ask an orphan what is value of mother and father may be he/she will tell you better rather than me. If even a single person among you after reading this article is able to realize the value of parents and bring a smile on their face today I guess my job is done.